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Wow...What a week it was in the news! Saddam Hussein
sentenced to death, Episcopal Church sentenced to
a new head bishop supporting same-sex marriage and
ordination of gays, and Ted Haggard sentenced to church
discipline, not to mention the shame of a fallen life!
Did I miss anything? I'm sure I did.
My daughter, clearly distressed, calls me from Colorado
Springs during this eventful week and says, "Dad,
did you hear the news and what's going on at New Life
Church?" My response... "Yes, dear, I'm
afraid that I have." Since I worked for one who
helped Haggard start New Life Church and lived less
than a mile from it for years, I've been musing over
this sad state of affairs and thought I'd jot down
some thoughts.
First, if we take Mike Jones at his word (the one
who allegedly had an affair with Haggard) and believe
that he chose to expose Haggard's immorality partly
because of his distaste for hypocrisy, I think it
is important to listen to him. Clearly, the world
is watching and lifestyles must be in concert with
beliefs! After all, letting our light shine before
others so that they may see our good works and give
God glory is about as good a motive as any to maintain
integrity. Living a life of duplicity is never condoned
in Scripture, and even the unbeliever can share this
ethic (I suspect they do so because of the imago
Dei within).
Second, since I'm advocating integrity, I suggest
that Jones take a longer look at his own lifestyle
as a male prostitute. It seems to me that he is opposing
marriage of all kinds, same-sex or otherwise. Anyone
who would market their sexual services to others has
leveled a serious blow to faithfulness in all human
relationships, homosexual or heterosexual. Therefore,
Mr. Jones, take the plank out of your own eye before
supposing to stand for marriage of all stripes. [Incidentally,
I do not support gay marriage under any circumstances.
My only point here is to show how prostitution destroys
human relationships, no matter one's sexual preference.]
This does not mean of course that Jones, or any unbeliever,
has no right to appeal to Christian ethics in sexual
purity because he has not personally subscribed to
it (ad hominem). It does clearly show that
the world is watching God's people and insisting upon
integrity of lifestyle. They're right!
Jesus had a great deal to say about hypocrisy. As
is well known, a hypocrite was a play actor who held
up various masks to portray a character in a Greek
play. That role became the paradigmatic expression
for living a life of discontinuity between beliefs
and behavior. I suggest (and psychological analysis
bears this out) that if one consistently lives inconsistently,
some level of psychosis sets in and the cognitive
dissonance will destroy all hope of stable mental
health. Pride does indeed go before a fall, but pretense
goes before pride. Just look at the life of Saul,
Israel's first king.
The cure for hypocrisy? One word: Holiness.
Believers must pursue a life that is motivated by
and results in holy habits grounded in Scripture.
Our eternity depends upon it and so does our happiness.
As Spurgeon once said in his now classic All of
Grace, "happiness comes from holiness."
Haggard's fall comes straight from Hell and is nothing
short of sin, which he has readily admitted, thankfully.
But his fall is no doubt the product of pursuing happiness
and fulfillment in the wrong directions that are certainly
not rooted in holiness. Augustine's dictum rings eternally
true that "the soul is restless until it finds
its rest in Thee." Not only will one not see
the Lord without holiness (Heb. 12:14), but there
is no rest or happiness for our souls apart from integrous
living. Moreover, our apologetic and the Gospel message
itself fails apart from setting Christ as Lord in
every area of our lives (1 Pt. 3:15-16), including
our sexuality.
Having served as a pastor for a short time, I know
there is tremendous responsibility to live uprightly.
And rightly so! Many in leadership, however, find
that their "mere humanity" creeps in and
subtly begins to erode their private lives, gradually
and certainly destroying the "inner man."
Consequently, leaders often find themselves at a juncture:
Either expose their sin asking for assistance from
significantly mature brothers or sisters to hold them
accountable for change, or relegate the matter to one's
"private life." Sadly, and somewhat ironically,
many in leadership take the latter option and end
up living lives of isolation that beget duplicity,
even while working in such a public arena!
It is true we all have private lives where none but
God can go. "Each heart knows its own bitterness
and no one else can share its joy" (Pr. 14:10).
But, where appropriate, we must build some measure
of transparecy into our lives and seek out a faithful, mature
community of at least one other to hold us accountable
on the road to holy living. Had Haggard sought help
years ago, knowing his weaknesses and "dark side,"
I'm confident the news would have turned out differently on this week.
Although we have this treasure in "jars of clay,"
brittle and porous as it is, we are equally God's
"holy nation" and responsible to hold one
another accountable, not out of harsh judgment, but
out of love and grace to restore, rebuild, refresh, and renew one another for God's
glory. In doing so, we will walk with integrity and
shine a bright light on the glorious Gospel of Jesus
our Lord.
After all, the world IS watching!

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